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Saturday, September 27, 2008

Not enough tears

I heard a speaker recently speak on a subject that was painful to listen to. He spoke eloquently of this subject, so eloquently that many cried in the audience. But, the points he was trying to make caused many to go to the emotional core of their being to hear of the injustice being perpetrated by one person on another. It was P-A-I-N-F-U-L to hear. People filled with selfish interests abusing others or betraying trusts with others.

Then I thought of all the behaviors in life that cause pain. Children who ignore their parents' careful upbringing turning to lifestyles that lead them astray and into places of correction to their behavior cause endless streams of tears and grief. Spouses who call their mates and declare that love is over, nevermind that 4 children will be affected, stun the listening mate at first, but very soon tears follow by the gallon. Grandparents adopt grandchildren because their own children bottom out under the strain of society and are washed away to sea, and the grand parents will be 78 when the youngest grandchild graduates from high school.

Sadness, badness, cruelty and injustice everywhere. I say EVERYWHERE - every corner of the world. Tears are falling every moment of the day and night. One would think, judging from the sheer amount of pain inflicted by one person on another, that tears would run dry. They don't. And, when I think of the sadness and pain, I think more people should cry. There are enough tears being shed in one sense because people weep as a result of their pain. But, in a sense, not enough people cry.

Why are we such a cruel lot, we humans? WAKE UP PEOPLE! Cry for somebody. And then, act loudly against all that person's cruelty and injustice. One person at a time. One tear at a time.

Sunday, September 07, 2008

A drain or necessary step?


Group dynamics are interesting to say the least. This morning a person was adamant about diagreeing with someone in a setting of about 15 people. The leader of the group was very polite to the person who voiced disagreement. We had to spend about 10 minutes of time trying to find ground on which some agreement could be found. It didn't happen, so it was a waste of 10 minutes. The group leader, as a consequence, didn't get to end at a place he wanted to. The people in the class could feel the crunch of time, so they didn't discuss as much.

One perspective is that one person decided he would rob everyone of a needed 10 minutes. Another, kinder perspective is that the person needed to be able to say something so that he could benefit from the rest of the group's time together. Groups are always energy-sucking events. It sometimes makes one wonder if the energy drain is worth it. In a country in which individual freedom is valued, I guess position-taking is a ritual that doesn't have so many ethical rules governing it.