What you see is not...

The iceberg teaches a good lesson.  It appears above the water as something beautiful as it sits there floating on top of the water.  It invites you to come and touch it, climb it, skate or ski on it, just enjoy its slick,cold surface.

Even as teenagers, though, people learn about icebergs.  They are taught there is more to them than appears above the surface.  And the Titantic is a story people know as a notice of what happens when they get too close to the part of ice under the water.

There are ways, of course, to know what lies beneath the water, to map the entire iceberg so that there are no surprises.  It's true with people as well.  We're all like icebergs floating in water, taking up our space, some below water level, some above.  People can know how to map the unseen.  It's called experience, sometimes science, or just long friendship.  But we can know.

The experience factor comes from the tracks we all leave in the water.  The science includes the various methods developed in detecting truth and deception.  And, the friendship factor allows people to see where the average is for someone as we go through the ups and downs of our friends' lives.

Life teaches us about icebergs, for sure... sometimes Titanic style, sometimes with life-long friends, and sometimes with the ability to connect dots.  We all change through time, in part due to our redirection to miss unseen icebergs.